Anda (Argentina): “Having enjoyed many Chinese wedding ceremonies, I started to ask myself questions: Why are Chinese wedding costumes red? Why do the bride and the groom drink cross-cupped wine?”
To me, Chinese wedding ceremonies are both festive and mysterious. Once, when I was still in Argentina, I attended the wedding of a Chinese Argentine. In order to bring my blessing to the bride and groom and add to the fun, I had gone out of the way to learn a Chinese song, which I sang on the wedding. Since that was before I started to learn Chinese, my pronunciation of the lyrics was terrible. However, my performance was received with an enthusiastic welcome. From then on, I became a “little star” who could sing Chinese songs and was often invited to sing at Chinese wedding ceremonies. Having enjoyed many Chinese wedding ceremonies, I started to ask myself questions: Why are Chinese wedding costumes red? Why do the bride and the groom drink cross-cupped wine?
In order to perform better and understand Chinese culture, I started to learn Chinese. Now I understand: drinking “cross-cupped wine” is a very significant ritual during a traditional Chinese wedding ceremony. The bride and the groom, each holding a cup of nuptial wine, cross their cup-holding arms and drink from each other’s cup. This is a symbolism for a you-in-me-and-me-in-you kind of love between husband and wife. The red color of the wedding costumes represents a prosperous marriage life.
May all lovers be able to marry, and may everyone have a thriving life.
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Published in Confucius Institute Magazine
Magazine 07. Volume II. March 2010.