“The More Friends, the Better”

Yuki, a japanese student, tells us about his experience in China: “Not long after I arrived in China, I was surprised to find that the Chinese people are very considerate of Japanese. They were warm-hearted and treated me as their friend from the very beginning.”

Yuki, a japanese student

What’s China really like in the eyes of foreigners? Which parts of Chinese culture are the most attractive? What are their personal experiences while learning Chinese language? Are there any touching stories that happened to them during their stay in China? You will find the answers here. After reading the following stories, don’t you have the desire to pick up your pen and put down something in Chinese about things around you?

Yuki, Japan

I was not good at making friends with strangers before I came to China for the first time. I had thought it would be troublesome to have many friends because I was free when I was on my own. So at that time, I thought one or two friends were enough. I had only a few friends till I came to study in China during the second year of university. In the eyes of my classmates, I was a special girl.

Not long after I arrived in China, I was surprised to find that the Chinese people are very considerate of Japanese. They were warm-hearted and treated me as their friend from the very beginning. I can make new friends almost wherever I go. Once when I was buying writing materials at a campus store, I used English since my Chinese was not good enough. A Chinese girl saw me and offered help. She became my first Chinese friend. I also made many friends in English class, in photo studio, in the Chinese Cheongsam store and on the train. To be honest, I thought at first that they became my friends because I was a foreigner and they presumed that I was rich. Did they make friends with me for some purpose?

“I couldn’t figure out why they would be so friendly. Later I asked a friend, “Why would you do that?” He said immediately, “The more friends, the better.” At that moment, I almost couldn’t believe my ears. The more friends, the better? Why is that? I was confused because it had never occurred to me. But this sentence has stayed in my mind since that moment.”

I came to realize that it is not true. In a hair salon, I was deeply impressed by some young hair-dressers. On that day, it was getting very late when my hair was almost done. The hairdressers began eating supper beside me and invited me to join them for free. I was curious about the life of young people outside campus; so, after that, I often joined them for dinner or to go out dancing. Once it was very late for me to leave so I slept in their room. The room was small and there was only one bed so we three girls slept together. They often invite different friends to their home and introduce me to them, “This is Yuki, our Japanese friend.” In Japan it would never happen. First, the shop assistants are very nice in Japan but they would never invite a customer to have supper together. Secondly, Japanese would not invite a friend to sleep overnight unless they had a guest room in their home.

I couldn’t figure out why they would be so friendly. Later I asked a friend, “Why would you do that?” He said immediately, “The more friends, the better.” At that moment, I almost couldn’t believe my ears. The more friends, the better? Why is that? I was confused because it had never occurred to me. But this sentence has stayed in my mind since that moment.

Now I am still studying in China and have had a great time. Who said I would not like to make friends? Now I have many friends – old and young, men and women. I often recall the sentence “The more friends, the better.”


Confucius Magazine 15

pdfPublished in Confucius Institute Magazine
Magazine 15. Volume 4. July 2011.
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